I disagree with the popular notion that Some ideas are heard so often that they begin to seem true But I disagree As a sexologist As a human being As a live interviewer who has heard hundreds of stories Here s what I disagree with That talking about desire is shameful That sex in a long relationship inevitably gets boring That men don t have sexual vulnerability That sexuality ends after 40 That nice girls don t talk about sex That the body has to be perfect to be desirable That being emotional is a weakness That intimacy is only about sex That a sexologist is only about technique in bed That if your partner doesn t guess your desires he s bad That problems in sex are embarrassing to discuss If any of these resonated write them down Which thought would you also disagree with Or vice versa - which of these things do you still have a hard time letting go of Let s talk about it honestly