Today i want to talk about communication cause by a weird situation
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8 months ago
freakkira
Today I want to talk about communication cause by a weird situation when I had to fight for me cumming during the sex Whether it s in sexual romantic or even platonic relationships And so it led me here wanting to share my thoughts with you and being sure you could relate nbsp When someone opens up about something personal or troubling the least we can do is listen Yet so often that s not what happens Instead we re met with defensiveness I ve experienced it myself more times than I d like to admit and I m sure you have too nbsp I m writing this out of frustration And even though I ve already processed it and moved on that doesn t erase how unfair and upsetting it felt in the moment or how often it feels in situations like this The thing is I make a real effort to communicate nonviolently Honestly Rosenberg would probably be cheering me on from the afterlife I don t say You re terrible I say I feel uncomfortable in this situation But you know what hurts When that effort is met with defensiveness excuses or self-protection instead of understanding When you open up showing your vulnerability hoping for connection and the response you get is justification nbsp Here s the thing when someone tells you they re upset or uncomfortable your first move shouldn t be to take it personally It s not about you Don t jump in with Well it s because or I didn t mean it like that Just listen Really listen Don t twist it to make it about yourself nbsp This isn t too much to ask If you have something to add if there s a point you want to make that s fine There will be time for that But first validate what I m saying Validate me That s empathy nbsp Real communication starts with listening You focus on what matters to the other person first That s how you create space for dialogue And that s how understanding grows