How often do I refuse and why can this happen I ve been wanting to talk about this topic for a long time and here s what I think These things are very tactile for me I can refuse a customization or sexting for several reasons Your preferences do not match mine For example if you ask for something that goes against my limits or comfort It s important for me to be honest with myself We don t know each other well enough Trust is the basis of any interaction If I don t know you well enough I can t feel safe making requests like this You are rude or humiliate me I only communicate based on mutual respect Disrespect or toxicity is always a stop And yes I can really say no regardless of the amount offered For me it s more important who we are as people and how honest we are with ourselves