Books and films that changed my view of male sexuality after becoming
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lucia.morris
Books and films that changed my view of male sexuality After becoming a sexologist I realized one thing everything I once thought about male sexuality is not an experience but a set of other people s expectations media images and myths Real understanding came later Sometimes at appointments Sometimes through a personal crisis And sometimes thanks to books and films that gave me goosebumps I m sharing what changed my view and perhaps will help you too 1 The Man Who Was Raised by His Mother Eli Lieberman About the inner boy who was taught to be strong but forgot to explain how to be alive This book helped me rethink why many men find it difficult to talk about feelings admit fears ask for support Sexuality is not only about the body It s about contact with yourself And when you are not in harmony with yourself you cannot be truly close to anyone 2 The film American Beauty 1999 Not about sex About an attempt to regain a sense of life Kevin Spacey s character goes into crisis loses everything - but gains the main thing the desire to feel Male sexuality is shown here not as a conquest of someone but as a return to oneself Very accurate very real And a little painful 3 Male Sexuality - Brian Tracy yes that one Sounds like pop psychology but it has something important a man is not a set of functions but a whole system of emotions fears ambitions and wounds And until you understand yourself technique will not help After this book I began to conduct consultations differently Not about erections About the value of a man as a feeling person 4 Inception 2010 What is Nolan doing here Shows our mind is a labyrinth And sexuality often gets stuck somewhere in childhood grievances guilt towards the ex fear of being vulnerable This is not a film about sex but it is very much about how we lose contact with ourselves and how important it is to return to it 5 Wild Men is a film that sexologists do not recommend but I will still say Male friendship midlife crisis confusion rebellion against routine It looks like a comedy but behind it there is enormous loneliness and a search for meaning Sexuality there is not about bed About the feeling that you are still alive Why is this important Because male sexuality is not about porn and should But about the freedom to be yourself And until we admit our vulnerability desires fear of being rejected no life hacks will help And now to you What book or film changed your view of relationships intimacy or yourself as a man Write in the comments I also want to read and watch what is important to you If you are interested I can put together a selection of books for men who are tired of being strong and want to be real