Get to know each other first Think back to those moments when you first met and what interest you felt in your significant other s life Try to do the same now Show interest in his work or hobbies and he in turn will become more aware of your likes This doesn t mean pestering your partner with questions about what he s thinking and what he s doing right now and now and now well now And just ask him how his day went invite him to the movies or for a walk play a board game by the way now there are a lot of erotic games for example fantasies for adults draw a fantasy - fulfill a sexual desire Such a game will not only help to diversify sex but also allows you to have a lot of fun together