Spirituality and acceptance are cool but You don t have to put up with everything for lofty goals Sometimes the best way to take care of yourself is to just break the pattern and send the abuser away This doesn t mean you re not a spiritual or unkind person it means you value yourself and your time It doesn t always make sense to dig into someone else s motives and justify someone else s behavior Self-care is realizing that your peace of mind is more important than someone else s why You just let it go - and move on with a lightness in your soul and the confidence that you ve done the right thing